Responding to a ‘nude pic’ request…
Sometimes you can feel a lot of pressure to send nude or semi-nude pictures of yourself to someone. They might ask you nicely, or they might harass you. Either way it can be confusing or scary when you don’t know what to do – especially if they are persistent and persuasive.
“No. Don’t make things weird.”
“Ha ha. You’re not that basic are you?”
“I won’t send you nudes. But I can forward this to my dad see if he’ll send you some.”
The real problem is that sexual culture presumes that boys are likely to ask and pressure girls for sexy or nude photographs, and it is the girls job to either defend themselves or give in. These guys probably know they are crossing the line by asking for sexy or nude pictures. So the best response is to point out that they were wrong to ask in the first place. Social sexual dynamics have placed boys in the position of power. It’s time to balance things out and take power for ourselves!
- A resent study into teenage girls’ reports of sexual photo solicitation – New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/02/well/family/teenagers-stop-asking-for-nude-photos.html
- How to respond when a guy asks for nudes – Galore Magazine: https://galoremag.com/respond-guy-asks-nude/
- 16 Utterly Brilliant Responses to a ‘Send Nudes’ Text – Huffington Post: http://www.huffingtonpost.com.au/entry/utterly-brilliant-responses-to-a-send-nudes-text_us_593069f4e4b010df62cc6a12